I’m going to say something that might ruffle some feathers: lighting a candle is not self-care. Don’t get me wrong — I love a good candle. From picking it out to lighting it, the whole vibe. I am here for the candles. But if your self-care routine starts and ends with a candle and a bubble bath, you’re not taking care of yourself. You’re taking a break. Those are different things. Taking a break is important. But self-care — real self-care — is about maintaining the full person. Not just the part of you that’s tired after a long day. The mental part. The physical part. The emotional part. The…